Friday, April 30, 2010

Embrace Yourself

I have a confession to make...I have a DLS (dirty little secret). I absolutely hate reality shows but for some reason, I'm drawn to The Hills on MTV. I'm a hypocrite, I know! This show isn't any better than all the others. Probably worse! It's full of twenty-something kids, partying and spending money left right and centre, with little care in the world. Is there any 'reality' to its storyline? I honestly don't know.

On Wednesday night, it was the season premier of The Hills (their final season). So why am I writing about this? Well, let me tell you. I was so completely appalled and shocked by what I saw that I'm still shaking my head. One of the main actresses (Heidi Montag) had plastic surgery...AGAIN. What you need to realize here is that this girl is only 24 years old! Yes, you heard me right.

The first time she had plastic surgery, she had her nose, lips and boobs done. That was in 2007. This time she had...her nose 're-done', her ears pinned back, her eyebrows lifted, her own fat injected into her cheeks, 'more' lip injections, a chin reduction, her back shaped (I have NO idea what this is), 'another' breast enlargement and some inner and outer lipo on her thighs. If you've ever watched this show, I'm sure you were as surprised as I was because she doesn't even look like the same person and this is sad.

It's sad to me because this girl was so attractive to begin with. She blames it all on Hollywood but for goodness sake; grow a set of balls, or maybe get some attached with more plastic surgery! How can someone think so low of themselves that they put themselves through such physical and emotional pain? Does Hollywood and the media have 'that' much power over us? I know that's all we see on television, in movies and in magazines. They're trying to program people to see what's 'perfect' in our world.

But is this realistic? Of course not! Who dictates what perfection is anyway? What may be perfectionism to me might not be for someone else but yet for decades our views of what perfection 'should' be have been shaped and re-shaped. If you want to look at it this way, it's almost like being brainwashed. Literally. Barbie is a good example. For years there has been controversy regarding her image. If her proportions were converted to human size, Barbie would be 5' 9" tall and 110lbs. She would have a 36 inch chest, 18 inch waist and 33 inch hips. Does this seem achievable? If you ask me, Barbie would have one sore lower back carrying around those mangos.

So why can't we be happy with ourselves for who and what we are? It all comes down to psychological. We are bombarded with how we should look so no wonder our brains are occupied with these ideas. We have to learn to shut these things out or let them pass us by. Our minds are what need to be strengthened. We have been born with what we have. You can't go back and change that. You have the ability to mould what you've been given BUT you will still be YOU.

I wrote something similar to this back in 2008 and my mind has not changed since then. There is only one you. Be the person YOU want to be, not what you think you SHOULD be. Embrace yourself and others will follow :o)


Natasha said...

fully agree in what you are saying...I just watched a show on MTV caledd True life I hate my face these girls had Body dysmorphic disorder I Think there are many people who are just so unhappy with htemselves and will try anything to make then better when most of the times it is emotional and surgey is not the answer.
I cant believe that the people on the HILLS get paid for that show, many of these reality shows should be for free IMHO LOL
Take Care

Parsley said...

I DO embrace who I am. 40 years old, getting gray, a little heavier than I used to be. I am woman...hear me ROAR!

Patty C. said...

We cut our cable quite some time ago for reasons such as this. Too much drama/nonsense on TV.

Hope you settle down soon. I wouldn't want you to blow a gasket -
Because then you might have to have it surgically repaired
-just kidding

Good point you've made
Take care

Marjorie said...

I agree with what you said, need to put down the remote slowly and back away! Don't get yourself in a frenzy b/c of Heidi Montag, the girl doesn't have sufficient brain power to be considered an idiot!

Rachel S said...

I feel very saddened by Heidi Montag. She was beautiful and this is not beautiful. I think we all need to embrace ourselves and appreciate ourselves, for the good and the bad.

Olenka's Stitches said...

I can't agree more with you. These people sure have some psychological disorder. One can her boobs and lips done but it will not make her a better person. With the little brain they have they do not realize this.

Terri(TerriBoog) said...

I've never seen this show but can't imagine that much PS at 24 years. WoW! I do have to say though... if I had a few extra thousand laying around - I wouldn't mind a little facial nip/tuck - problem is, even if I did have the cash - I'm scared to death of the pain! Of course, I'm 50+ years, not 24 so I have embraced my look for quite a while!!!

Quiltsmiles said...

You won Angela's giveaway. Contact her at
Wanted to let you know. Cngratulations and don't let the fluff on TV bother you. You can always turn it off. Simple!

Lili said...

Well, I had no idea how far people could go until I saw that Miss Swan something show, some sort of competition where ordinary women are supposed to become princesses (fake ones). This is so sad. Trying to make you look like a standard beauty while doing some surgery on almost everything, including the chin, the cheeks, the jaws, so on. Freaky and sad...
And to think that teenagers want to look like those fake actresses or singers or models just makes me want to scream. I'm already worried for my nine-year old daughter...

Sharon said...

Cathey I was dying laughing here! Attach a set of balls by plastic surgery-too funny. She is a sad case-I think she just wants attention and has found that doing outrageous things help her.

Also you are on a hot streak! I see you are Gift of Stitchings reader of the month! Congrats!

CathE said...

I don't know the program, maybe it's not in the UK but I stear clear of reality stuff too - and I'm in full agreement with everything you say there.

Carol said...

I've never seen the show, but I totally agree with what you're writing, Cathey. I think it would be so difficult to be a young girl growing up with all of these fakey "role models."

And we all have our little vices--I love to read People magazine :)

♥ Nia said...

I was just thinking that! That girl made so many surgeries that she's probably not the same person as she was born! 0_0
People like that have serious brain problems! Like anorexia, bulimia and many other diseases, the fixation for the plastic surgery is another! I think it's the only explanation!
I hate my nose but I embrace myself, just as I am :)

Rachael said...

Hear hear!!!