The following post contains some pretty strong opinions and a few nasty words ;o)
BASTURD!BASTURD! BASTURD! BASTURD!BAS-TURD!
I can honestly say that I do not get any free rides in my life. I'm not necessarily looking for them but why? Why do things always have to be SO difficult???? Did I have a jinx placed on me? Was there never any lucky horseshoe shoved up my ass? I CAN tell you one thing...I'm ripping MAD! >:o(
If you remember back to my July 28 post, I told you that LTD had dropped me so I went to my employer to ask if I could come back to a part-time position instead of my original full-time one, due to my disabilities, and I presented them with a gradual part-time back to work schedule and a list of accommodations (both signed by my doctor and OT). At first they agreed but a few weeks later they changed their minds. They told me if I wanted to come back, I had to resign from my full-time position and reapply for a part-time position, IF one was available. Since I refused to do this and my employer refused to let me come back to work, I filed a complaint with Human Rights.
A letter was sent to my employer and they had until September 23, 2008 to respond as to whether they wanted to mediate (negotiate) or not. They did respond within this time so I thought things were finally going my way. A few weeks went by so I called Human Rights to see what was going on. They were trying to line up legal councel along with my employer's contact out in British Columbia. Fine. I waited another few weeks and then called again. Again, I got the same story.
So today, I get a phone call from Human Rights. My case worker stated that it was proving to be too difficult to set this conference call up and that she would do the mediation on my behalf. We talked about what I wanted and came up with this - lost wages dating back to July 7, 2008, a part-time job with the accommodations that were originally asked for and some special entitlement in which mine ranged from $1,500-5,000. I wasn't expecting this and I won't tell you what I asked for but I think I was fair in the amount. Overall, I don't think what I asked for was beyond reason.
When I got off the phone, I started thinking about the possibility that my employer wouldn't take me back so I called my case worker to inquire about severance pay and left a message. Not ten minutes later, she calls me back to say that my employer's contact has refused everything that I asked for. He stated that he 'misunderstood' what this mediation process was. WTF???? Can this idiot not read???? I have a copy of the letter that they received and I understand it perfectly. Has he not heard the word 'negotiation' before???? What did he think this was anyway?
On top of that, he had the BALLS to say that I refused an Independent Medical Exam. I say WTF...AGAIN! I have done nothing but jump through hoops for LTD AND my employer ever since this whole dog and pony circus act started. PLEASE tell me, HOW did this f-ing idiot get his job???? This is just ANOTHER example of the people I am dealing with.
My blood is boiling and that anger that I was trying to suppress has now come up from the depths again. I really want this whole thing to be over with. I truly do. But I'm getting screwed. This is NOT right! Everyone that I've had to tell this story to (EI, the independent doctor, my doctor, lawyers) all look at me with their mouths open and hanging to the ground because they don't understand. At least I'm not the only one.
So what do I do now? I wait. Now it goes to stage two where they will investigate both sides of the complaint. I wonder if Idgit Boy will understand this next part. And no, I still haven't heard back about the job that I applied for with the provincial government :o(
Yesterday I found myself losing two of the most important people in my life :o( My heart felt so empty. It was not a good day.
Before the crack of dawn, I drove DH to Moncton so he could catch his bus to Sydney. Even as I write this, he is beginning his new training and I couldn't be more proud of him :o) It was hard seeing him go but I don't think the bulk of it has sunk in yet. When I went to bed last night, I took out one of DH's sweatshirts and wrapped it up with me. A sad picture I know. For once in my life, Christmas cannot come soon enough.
Over the last year, I've slowly been introduced to being by myself but this will really be the test and one I'm not sure I can do but I'm willing to try. I have a lot on my plate but Wonder Woman I am not :oS Cooking? What the hell is that? I do have great plans to explore that realm but so far, two donuts from Tim Horton's doesn't really qualify ;o)
While in Moncton, I took the opportunity to go visit my Gram but it wasn't the kind of visit I was hoping for :o( Gram has severe osteoporosis and over the years, her spine has curled in so that her back is hunched. This has created pressure on her inner organs and a lot of pain as a result.
Last week she called the ambulance because she was in so much pain. For Gram to do this, it had to be extremely severe because this woman is a rock and stubborn to boot. She was in her late fifties when my grandfather died and she's been on her own ever since. I've always looked up to Gram because of the type of woman she is, plus she's always been there for me :o)
Dad told me because of all the pain medication she was on (she was on FOUR kinds), it was best to see her in the morning so I arrived shortly after 10:30 am. My aunt was just getting Gram dressed. I took Brie into the living room to wait. The person that entered the room didn't look anything like my Gram :o( She was so pale and her eyes were almost dead. It looked like the life had been zapped right out of her. She did recognize me and Brie though and was very happy to see us :o)
We carried on a bit of conversation but then she started to fall asleep while she was talking. Her voice was starting to slur and by the time I left, she was hallucinating. Very difficult to watch. I just wanted to hug her and not let go. Mom just called awhile ago to let me know that Gram is now back in the hospital :o( I'm not sure where things are going from here but it sure is lonely dealing with this myself.
My heart was filled with warmth though when two unexpected packages arrived here late last week :o) First off, dear (but VERY bad) Chiloe sent me this Lanarte kit -
I just about fell off my chair when I opened it! I have been eyeing this kit for awhile now and could not believe my eyes when I had it in my hot little hands. I can't thank you enough my friend and I have no idea what I did to deserve such a RAOK. I will be getting you back ;o)
I had a head's up on the second package but I had no idea of the contents. There was a shriek of joy when I found this -
Nursy stitched up this gorgeous pumpkin towel and just so you know, her stitching is beautiful! There is no way that towel is being used but it will have a place of honour in my stitching room :o) She also enclosed two Watership Down bookmark kits. I guess someone is reading my Blog. LOL! Thank you so much for thinking of me dear friend.
So I guess you are all waiting and wondering who the winners are :o) I hope everyone had a fun time at the Pumpkin Day festivities. I was a little disappointed in the pumpkin carving contest and as far as I can tell, there were only two entrants (Lori-Ann and Rachael) :o( I thought you guys would be more creative! Because it was based on creativity, the winner is....LORI-ANN! A grab bag will be making its way to you shortly :o) Don't worry Rachael; you have a much deserved thank you coming your way...
There were 31 entrants for the other grab bag and since that outnumbered my brilliant Scrabble lottery technique, I had to use Random.org. For the life of me, I cannot figure out how to get a picture of the screen to show you so you'll just have to take my word for it. Drum roll please......the winner is.......HARMIEN! Congrats!
If there is anyone out there that requested a copy of my free charts and did not receive them, please email me with your contact information. My email address can be found in my profile. Finally, I want to send a HUGE thank you out to everyone who stopped by and I hope you'll come back next year and celebrate with me again :o)
Don't worry Lili, you didn't miss it ;o) To be honest, I was a little worried that I would have to postpone it as things here are a royal mess but I have prevailed and the show will go on! I hope everyone is ready to have some fun :o)
As you probably already know, a pumpkin is really a squash. Pumpkins are rich in Vitamin A and potassium and also high in fibre. So guess what? They are good for you :o) Although, when you start adding in the sugar, cream, eggs or milk...that piece of pumpkin pie or that jar of pumpkin jam might not be all that nutritious after all. But hey, this is Pumpkin Day and you can eat whatever you want!
Pumpkins are a huge part of this time of year, especially on Halloween. We love carving up these plump vegetables :o) So...the first contest of the day is to show off your very own Jack-O-Lanterns! If you've already carved out your pumpkin for Halloween, take a picture of it and post it to your Blog. Leave a comment on "this post only" with a link to your entry. If you don't have an 'actual' Jack-O-Lantern, be creative and make one! Who says it has to be made from a real pumpkin. If you want to practice, try out your ideas here or here. All entries will be judged and the winner will receive a surprise grab bag so make sure I have your contact information as well :o)
It wouldn't be a party without games now would it???? Take a stroll into the game area and try The Pumpkin Battle or Bashing Pumpkins. A little violent for pumpkins I know but believe me, no pumpkins will be hurt during these games ;o)
Did you know that the world's largest pumpkin pie, as of October 2005, stands at 2,020 pounds after baking? I guess asking for 'just a sliver' would be like asking for 63 9" pies. At least! LOL!
Today I have a VERY special gift for ALL of you :o) Since it's Pumpkin Day and also Breast Cancer Awareness Month (both of which are dear to me), I thought that this next thing would be perfect...I have designed a Limited Edition cross stitch pattern for you! I know I couldn't believe it myself. LOL! With the help of a dear, dear friend, I actually have the finished models to show you -
Rachael, the bionic stitcher, stitched and finished both pieces for me in time for today's festivities! Thank you SO much girl, you did an awesome job :o) In order to obtain this pattern (it has two versions), please leave a comment on "this post only", along with your contact information and I will email the pattern to you. As I stated, this is a Limited Edition pattern so it will only be available until Monday, October 27, 2008 and then it's gone!
And finally, I have one more grab bag to give away :o) All you have to do for this one is to leave a comment on "this post only", along with your contact information and your name will be automatically placed into the hat. Since I am unsure as to my schedule for the rest of the week, the winners will be announced on Monday, October 27, 2008. I thank you for your patience and...
I can't believe that I pulled off another finish in one month :o) Woohoo! I was doing a little happy dance last night when I finished-finished my finish. I really love this one and I knew I was going to stitch it when I found the material for the backing. The two were just perfect for each other.
Don't those eyes just give you the creeps? LOL! I used the recommended fabric and threads except that I switched 3371 for 310 so it would match the fabric. The material I used for the back is the one in the pictures. Isn't it cool?
I made this little guy into a pinkeep -
Do you know how hard it is to find black headed pins???? Luckily I didn't need too many. And I'm so pleased with my bow as well :o)
This is the section of fabric I used for the back of the pinkeep -
I love, love, love it! I'm really in a Halloween mood. I just wish I had more October so I could stitch a few more Halloween projects. I will now be returning to Tot but there is no way she'll be done by the end of the month :o(
Things have been absolutely hectic here and I'm SO behind in emails and reading Blogs so please don't think that I've disappeared. I will, eventually, get caught up with everyone :o) Tomorrow DH and I are meeting with the realtor so the house is going to officially go on the market! We're done all our renovations so I'll have to post some new pictures for you. I'm really happy with the way things have turned out but I'm glad we will be moving.
Please don't forget to sign up for the breast cancer wall hanging RR. The post is below. You can add more than one name and I will ship overseas :o) I really want to thank those that have signed up already and I will be in touch after Pumpkin Day with all the details.
Btw, before I go, here's a little enabling -
Isn't it cute! It's a new thread pack by Crescent Colours especially for Breast Cancer Awareness Month :o)
If you are one of my readers or a Blogger that would like to participate in a quick but meaningful RR, then you've come to the right place :o)
DH and I came home on Saturday evening after an exhausting day of working when I found a plastic bag hanging from our front door. Inside contained a RR project that I had started back about THREE years ago! I had asked a friend of mine to do the sewing bit and with life getting in the way, we just never hooked up. Thanks to my wonderful stitching channel, the project got delivered :o) Thanks Katie!
Some of you may have already seen this poem. It's called What Cancer Cannot Do and it's a freebie by Gloria & Pat -
I stitched it on 18 count white Davos. I had found some beautiful pink ribbon fabric and I got my friend to sew the poem into a wall hanging -
Wait, it doesn't stop there! As you can see, there is quite a wide border around the poem but there IS a method to my madness ;o) The wall hanging is not completely closed up so it allows you to continue stitching on it. Ahhhh...do you see where I'm going with this? As you can see in this picture, I have added my name above the poem -
To those who would like to participate in this RR, you would be backstitching 'your' name or the name of someone you know that has been touched by cancer. Hey, you can always do both too! These names will go around the poem. I have calculated enough room for three rows. Those that fought breast cancer will have their name backstitched in dark pink (like mine) while the others, friends and family, will be using the lighter green.
Wait, there's more! Along with the RR piece, there will be a journal that will accompany it :o) In this journal the participants can write whatever they wish. Maybe you have a beautiful memory of a loved one that has passed away from breast cancer and you want to write it down. Perhaps you want to write out your own fears with regards to this awful disease. Tell a story about where this book has been and where it's going to. The book is a blank canvas and you are the artist. Create what 'you' want to create :o)
This is going to be a very special piece for me in the end. It will be a joint project that I will be honoured to display in my home :o) I have a lovely hanger from which it will hang from. So if you are interested in participating, please leave a comment on 'this post only' and instructions on how to get a hold of you via email. PLEASE do not leave your mailing address. I'll leave this RR open until Pumpkin Day and then afterwards I will create a mailing list.
I'm in need of your help so spread the word! I'm SO excited to start this rolling and what better way than to have your friends by your side :o)
The past few days have been filled with goodies and that can never be a bad thing :o) Yesterday, Mom and Dad stopped by to drop of my jam supply. Along with the usual strawberry and raspberry, she included a jar of pumpkin jam. This was a new recipe that she found in a magazine so she wasn't sure how it would turn out.
If you want to see my expression, check out Mom's Blog ;o) Let me put it this way, if you like marmalade jam, you're going to LOVE this! As you can see, I already get my sweet stash from Mom but now she's stepped it up a notch. So far I've tried it on bagels but I'm wondering what it would be like on ice cream...
Today was STASH DAY! The postman was very kind and dropped off two things -
During The Online Needlework Show, I put my name in with My Mark Designs for one of their door prizes and guess what? I won! The funny thing is I won a pattern from them at the spring show as well. I couldn't help myself this time and just HAD to get her new pattern, Equal Rights ;o) A snowman, er snowwoman, with boobs! ROFL!
On top of that, my order from Wasatch Needle Craft arrived! I just couldn't resist the new pink ribbon pattern by The Cat's Whiskers - Love, Laugh, Survive & Thrive. And once I bought that, I just HAD to include the Pink Snips by Kelmscott Designs :o) These are just adorable. This was the first time I ordered from this ONS and I wouldn't hesitate to deal with them again.
Before I go, I just want to wish all my Canadian friends a turkey filled Thanksgiving Day weekend. I hope my American friends enjoy their extra day off Columbus Day weekend and for the rest of my friends around the world, enjoy your weekend to the fullest :o)
I don't know what it is lately but I've been in the Halloween mood. Maybe it's that autumn smell in the air or the coloured leaves swirling around on the ground. Maybe it's all the cool costumes in the stores or the fact that I'm stitching two Halloween pieces. Maybe it's watching the flocks of Canada geese flying south or all the piles of pumpkins in front of the grocery stores. Whatever it is, it's really got me going :o)
I never used to like Halloween because that's when my grandfather passed away. I was in Grade 4 and I can remember my parents coming and picking me up at school. We were having our class Halloween party and I was dressed up in my costume. This was my first experience with loss so as we drove to Moncton, I watched the Trick or Treaters going from house to house and I couldn't understand why I had to give that up :o(
I'm not really one for dressing up and going to Halloween parties anyway but in the past few years, I've found that I have been enjoying everything that leads up to the day. I love strolling the isles in the stores and looking at all the different decorations. As you can probably guess, I'm a sucker for pumpkins ;o) I was in Wal-Mart the other day and came across Halloween costumes for dogs. Well, didn't I find the hot dog costume I've always wanted to get for Brie -
If money wasn't tight right now, I would have bought it just to tick off a certain DH ;o)
One sure sign that I'm in the Halloween mood is when I break out the horror movies! I know a lot of people are not huge fans of such a movie genre but I love them :o) Okay, let me put it this way, I love them if 1) its daylight or 2) there's someone else with me. I do have a wimpy side. LOL! Yesterday I broke out Halloween H2O. Did you know that the mask that Michael Myers wears is actually the face of William Shatner, only painted white? That's scary enough right there!!!!
To answer Suzanne's question, and there may be others that are wondering, yes, we do celebrate Halloween here in Canada and it is on October 31. So what's up with my counter then? No, it's not incorrect. I can count, up to 31 anyway ;oP On October 21, I will be celebrating Pumpkin Day!
Yes, it's an actual day and hey, since I'm known as Pumpkin I figure I might as well take over that day as my own :oD So, on October 21, I highly suggest you stop by my Blog for some Pumpkin Day party fun!
Hear ye! Hear ye! Come and join me for the Grand Opening because The Needlework Shop is officially open for business -
Didn't the landscapers do a fantastic job? I was really lucky because just as they were finishing, I was able to locate someone to put the sign up as well ;o)
Things must have really been in my favour because the interior decorator had a last minute cancellation and she was able to fit me in sooner than expected. The shop has honey oak flooring throughout, with beautiful coloured area rugs. When you walk in the door, your eyes might spot the seating area in the middle of the room. I made sure I had one there so anyone can come in and stitch anytime they want to :o) There are two comfortable sofas and two chairs with ottomans so you can put your feet up and rest awhile. This is a NRA shop (no rushing allowed) so leave your husbands at home. LOL!
The fibers, embellishments and accessories are all on the first floor. You're surrounded by loads of color and bling -
As you sit and stitch, or even if you're just browsing around, your eyes will see plenty of eye candy because the walls are adorned with stitched models. After coming here, you'll never have another moment when you ask yourself, "What am I going to stitch next?" LOL!
The second floor is dedicated solely to fabric, and lots of it -
I put in a huge cutting table in the middle of the room. The fabrics line the walls and are arranged by count AND by color so there appears to be a rainbow all around you :o) The selection is easy to see and you can't help but touch the linens. In amongst all the stitching fabric you're going to spot something new. I've added special fabric for finishing those flat folds, pin keeps and stand ups. They coordinate perfectly with the stitching fabric so there's no need to drive around town with little color samples in your purse ;o)
Before you leave, make sure that you've tried out our selection of teas and don't forget to grab a few business cards to give out to friends and family!